Dating nowadays is not easy. There are endless underhand tactics, unspoken rules and too many options. Being a Christian definitely makes it more difficult because you have more specifications before you start. You often want different things from a relationship than most people around you so it can be hard to find like-minded people. So what’s the best approach for a Christian single to have?
Christians should only date other Christians.
Although it is fine for Christians to have non-Christian friends, those who are especially close to our heart should be mature believers who are seeking to follow Christ with their lives. We also tend to become like the company we keep. If you are dating a non-Christian, you are playing with fire. If you fall in love, what will you do? Don’t let the relationship progress to a physical point and then hope you can cut it off later.
Set limits mutually
Both partners must take responsibility for setting limits. Mutual boundary keeping reflects maturity. What is your motivation — power and control, gratifying your own ego, meeting a selfish need, or genuine affection?
Date with a trajectory towards marriage.
If you are a Christian, there is no reason to date without a trajectory towards marriage. Dating with a trajectory towards marriage means dating with purpose. It means dating someone who meets the values and goals you have for a future. Casual or purposeless dating has no benefit for Christians. We are intentional beings. We are designed to know why we do stuff and where we are going. Dating is no different.
Have a list of values and don’t compromise them.
It’s dangerous riding on the road to marriage without an idea of where you are going. Have a list of values. However, Don’t sit someone down on the first date and interview them to make sure they meet all of the qualities.